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So I Bought The Chocolate Mousse

9 Jul

“There’s something about that night that I need to tell you …”

Who says that and doesn’t finish the sentence?

This is not movie or a Young and the Restless cliffhanger … this is life. So I was surprised when I heard it.

Who says something like that?

Who?

A guy … you guessed it … had to be a guy.

I was people watching at a restaurant when it happened, and I couldn’t believe it.

Dude.

She just sat there waiting. He took a call in mid-sentence and she just sat there waiting. I’m not one to get into anybody’s business. In fact I have trouble keeping my own business situated, but I couldn’t help but be intrigued. I hadn’t heard the entire conversation, just that one piece. So it could have meant many things. He could have been talking about a night at his parent’s house and how his dad accidentally crashed their car. He could have been talking about a night at work where he got demoted or fired because he told off the boss. It could have been a night with the baby and how he accidentally cut the baby’s hair. It could have been many things, but her reaction led me to believe it was something more serious. She seemed to be fuming and had that I’m-trying-to-contain-my-wrath-because-we’re-in-public look. Every chick has one of those looks and seeing how I’m a chick I recognized it right away.

So I sat there wondering what could it be. What did this dude do? It plagued me for the next ten minutes while he was on the phone. I’m sure it was killing her as she was on her second stiff drink. It appeared to be vodka, but who knows could have been gin. All I know was she was throwing it back and anxiously waiting the return of her dude. In truth I was waiting anxiously too.

As I was awaiting his arrival,  I started to think, what if that was me? Would I have waited like the strappy sandals chick here, or would I have thrown his phone against the wall and demanded that he explain what he meant? Now I tend to lean more to the Snapped! version of myself when crazy sentences like these are introduced in conversation. So the phone would have been a goner. I’m passionate like that.

So when he came back I sat there waiting. But nothing of the Snapped! sort happened. He just walked back in, put some money on the table, told her there was an emergency, and he left.

Holy crap.

I couldn’t believe it. I sat there eating my baked potato. I stopped in mid spoon, because I couldn’t believe what had just happened.

Who does that? Who says “there’s something about that night that I need to tell you,” and then just bails. She sat there deflated. I had no idea what had just transpired, but it looked heavy. I assumed the conversation that would take place later that night would suck. So I did what any chick would do for a fellow member of the team. I bought the chocolate mousse and sent it to her table. And even though I hadn’t met her, I still felt the need to do something for her. I didn’t wait for her reaction. I thought she needed to enjoy it in private. I figured she’d need something to get her through that future conversation.

Susan Sarandon and Johnny Carson to the Rescue

6 Jun

“It’s easy to be heavy, but hard to be light.”

For some reason I came across that quote twice this week. It’s stalking me, like a crazy boyfriend from a Law and Order episode.

The thing is I can’t even remember where I saw it, but it came out of no where, probably from my calendar or a book. Either way it had me thinking of who would say something like this, probably the same person that says “everything happens for a reason”. 

The thing is when people are ready to jump off a cliff or go out on a bender they don’t want to hear stuff like this. They want to hear that life does suck and everybody at one time or another is looking at an empty bottle of their preferred alcoholic beverage of choice.  When they finally recover from this bad-day hangover … that’s when you bust out your helpful quotes.

The other day my friend was complaining about her current life: her marriage being in a tough spot, her work not exactly going the way she wanted and her teenage kids acting … well like teenagers. Incidentally, it did suck at the time. But instead of giving her the “it’s-easy-to-be-heavy” speech and why don’t you pretend to be happy load of crap, I talked to her for a little bit and then tried to make her laugh. After our talk, I looked into my television and movie vault quotes, which often help me get a laugh now and then when life is giving me road blocks.

I didn’t know what to tell her about marriage to make her hopeful and feel better about her situation. So I did my best to listen. After our heartfelt talk I sent her an email in hopes of brightening her day. These were the quotes I passed along …

“If variety is the spice of life, marriage is the big can of Spam,” Johnny Carson.

Some people like Spam. It’s sold in over 40 countries. It’s been around since 1937. For some people Spam rocks.
 
“We’re not in the middle of nowhere, but we can see it from here.” Susan Sarandon.
 
Even if we had a road map, compass, and the best GPS Navigation system for life, some people, including myself would still get lost … but humor would still be my co-pilot. I’ll lend it to you so you can get through this.
 
She sent me a thank you email the next day.
 
Sometimes, humor helps you bounce back. If it fails, go to Plan B: Chocolate. A lot of chocolate.