Tag Archives: advice

I Love Cheerios, I Really Do, But They’re Right …

10 Sep
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Today … Joanna Was My Exception Joanna And Her Six

19 Aug

Normally I don’t … I just don’t.

But the title caught my eye.

Six Things I Wish I’d Known About Marriage When I Was …

Dude I was like wait … only six? I would have waaaaaaaaaaayyyyy more.

So I got curious, and it wasn’t so much the information, it was the fact that I thought, dude I could have written this article. I definitely had plenty of lessons. I definitely had plenty I-Wish-I-Would-Have-Known moments. I totally could have had a byline on the front page of a magazine. Totally. Who was this chick and what were these six?

So I went against my instinct and clicked on the link.

I had to, I had to find out if the pretend article in my head would be better than what was posted on this major site. And the thing is I never do. I don’t. I stopped reading stuff like this after my 20s. In fact I bet you did too. I bet you didn’t even click the link I posted.

I bet, and you know why?

The majority of these articles are a load of crap. All these relationship articles out there claiming to know the secrets of marriage, or the top ten things your wife really wants, or ten things to never do in front of a guy, or what your husband is really thinking, or do these four things just like so-so celebrity and your partner will thank you for life.

Dude this was crap. It wasn’t like it was Oprah or anything.

I was already reaching 30 and decided I had to stop. I had too.

None of those articles out there had my life, my dudes, my problems. They knew very little of what my ideal relationship should be, so I just quit all of them because you know what? There is no secret to marriage. It’s work. Hard work, but it’s worth it with the right partner. It’s worth it and if I needed advice I’d probably ask a friend how she made it work. That’s real to me.

So I don’t do it anymore. I had stopped doing it. I made the rule and that was that. No exception. Nope. None. I’m done wasting time with that nonsense. Now I stand there in the grocery store line, waiting to pay, and I ignore the crap out of all those magazines with some hot chick on the cover they think I want to be like and I focus more on whether I brought the right coupons and people watching.

People watching at the market rocks. Makes for good material and characters in stories.

But this time I wasn’t at the store. I opened up my computer, clicked my Firefox 30.0 and waited for my homepage to appear and then there it was staring at me.

Six Things I Wish I’d Know About Marriage When I Was …

I thought yeah I wish I knew some things. I wish.

Six huh? Just six.

And so I clicked.

I read.

I was like Amen sister! Preach! Preach! I’ll testify. I’ll testify tonight.

Yup. For once they got it right. This chic Joanna Schroeder rocked those six lessons, I would have added a few more in my case, but overall I think she covered some ground. I don’t know what else she writes but this one was right on the mark.

Today … Joanna was my exception. Joanna and her six.

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No Need To Get Burned Out … I Can Still Learn Something

15 Dec

Someone invaded my Bucket List. They enjoyed what I wanted to enjoy and checked off what I wanted to check off.

Usually stuff like that makes me bitter, but after reading what they wrote it made me better. I come across this a lot. People fulfilling items on their list that happen to be on mine. I’m sure there are a lot of people like this and it eventually happens to all of us. But I learned to be less burned out about my delayed Bucket List opportunities, because I realized I can learn something from their journey.

Coming across different articles and blog posts continues to open me up to different perspectives that inspire me and light a fire under my ass. Recently I read 50 Things I Learned From Visiting The 50 States by Ben Arredondo and Tara Bracco.

Check out every state, it’s something that’s been on my Bucket List that I have yet to make a dent in … I know, I know.

And reading about someone else doing it, well you can see how that would just suck for me, but theirs was not a Facebook bragging post, it was an honest insightful collage of tidbits and advice from a top Bucket List Adventure. There were a lot of phrases that caught my daydreaming heart, but two in particular stood out, two that could apply to more than just Bucket List Adventures, two that extend to my current existence, and two that could help me keep chugging along, so I thought I’d share.

 

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“Plan, don’t schedule”

It’s always good to have something to run toward, something to chase, something with purpose, something that wakes you up out of of bed with excitement and passion, the kind of excitement you had when you were seven years old and you jolted out of bed because you had the wonderment of a kid and you were just excited because the sun had come up and the adventure of Saturday morning cartoons or Saturday morning in general was about to begin.

Yeah, you had a plan, but as we all know you need to be flexible because things change. You’re gonna get to where you want to be, but sometimes you’ll have to take different roads to reach your destination.

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“You can’t do it all, and that’s O.K.”

This was definitely helpful for the parent and overachieving mindset in me. I always want to do everything on my list and feel like a failure if it doesn’t happen, but I’ve got to remember that I’m not Jack Bauer so I’ll need more than 24 hours to do what I’ve got to do. Sometimes it will take months or years, but eventually I get there.

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Trying to Enjoy The Episodes

20 Nov
Image via TheThingsWeSay.com

Image via TheThingsWeSay.com

It’s been a tough week, so tough that I’ve missed a few posts. But I’ve been trying to take some wise advice.

Passing On The Secret Memo

19 Oct

Image via quotablecards.com

 

Dude. I’m not a sailor and I don’t go motor-boating, but where the hell was this piece of advice twenty years ago? I guess if I had a boat, maybe even a jet ski, I would have got this secret memo.

It’s all good … I’m trying to make up for it now.

 

 

 

The A-Ha Moment

6 Aug

“If you can’t be a good example, then you’ll just have to be a horrible warning.” — Catherine Aird. Crime Fiction Writer.

 

At first glance this made me laugh, then I had an a-ha moment. Several of them.

As in a-ha this is the code of the jackass.

A-ha I have met this person.

A-ha I have dated someone like you but I didn’t see the warning because I gave you the benefit of the doubt … I hadn’t seen He’s Just Not That Into You, however now I wouldn’t give you the time of day.

A-ha this is what happens when you don’t follow the instruction booklet.

A-ha I have seen you at the DMV office.

A-ha I have met you at the personnel office of the school district when I used to be a substitute teacher. You were the supervisor.

A-ha this is the Telenovela code.

A-ha most politicians end up being the warning.

A-ha people like this exist in every dysfunctional family.

A-ha.