Feel Good 5 Friday … on a Saturday Night … Letting It All Out

10 Apr

Misrepresentations. Different Perspective. Not forthcoming. Not accurate. Untrue.

Just call it what it is … A lie. That’s what it is. Lie. When someone says something that’s not true it’s a lie. Doesn’t matter how they saw it play out in their head, if it’s not what actually happened then it’s a lie. Tired of sugarcoating it with the word untruthful.

Lie. Straight up.

You know what happened. I know what happened. Everyone there knows what happened the fact that a hurt ego is involved is no excuse to lie your way out of it.

Just recently I was reminded of how differently people see events unfold. It’s the same sunrise but it’s seen differently on the east side of town, then on the west side. They see it differently but fact is the sun came up. No way to argue with that, or so I thought. Big. Small. Whatever the size. One thing happened and then apparently there are two sides. One from there and one from here. No matter what your baggage is, doesn’t change the fact that the sun still rose in the morning, can’t be angry that the colors are not what you wanted them to be, you can’t change them just because you don’t like them when you retell the story. That’s not how it works.

It burns me out to be misrepresented and bad mouthed just because a person can’t handle facts.

I was lit up earlier in the week when I discovered a backstory going around and it angered me. It was based on a lie they told themselves in order to feel better about who they were as a person, a parent, a human being. They have this lie they hung onto in order to disparage others. What is that? Their old enough to know better, but this ego, this chip on their shoulder sends them into an alternate reality where neither them, nor their family can do no wrong. What is that?!

I mean when I mess up, when my kids mess up, I’m the first one up to bat to take responsibility. Whether it was intentional or unintentional, I actually take responsibility. Whether it’s embarrassing, sad, or troublesome you’ve got to just stand up and say, yeah we were in the wrong. That’s it. But doubling-down and changing the story doesn’t mean you actually changed how things happened. You didn’t. Just playing mind games and drinking poison yourself in hopes the other person gets sick.

But some people, they just don’t learn. They refuse to, just stuck in their victim-mentality when in fact they were the offenders. I don’t get how people can be so old, with lives lived, traveled, married, divorced, kids and still … still remain so obtuse. It’s never about them, always about someone else.

In listening to my playlist and hearing songs from back in the day, I realized people have always had this problem, they’re never at fault. So when someone calls them out, they can’t handle it, they’re so emotionally bankrupt that it doesn’t register and they make up a story, a rumor to make them feel better about behaving like such jerks. And they hold onto that lie, tighter and tighter as time goes on. The lie gets bigger and more engrained in the head. And the cycle begins again.

You keep your distance. You’re done with toxicity. You got the truth and facts on your side. So you feel at peace. And you enjoy the playlist. The Feel Good 5 Friday works even better on Saturday or Sunday. You turn the volume up and belt out those lyrics, feeling stronger and more empowered.

Buen Camino …

Club Nouveau — Rumors

Tom Petty and The Heartbreakers — Don’t Do Me Like that

Matchbox Twenty — She’s So Mean

Thompson Twins — Lies Lies Lies

Santana — Oye Como Va

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9 Responses to “Feel Good 5 Friday … on a Saturday Night … Letting It All Out”

  1. beth April 11, 2021 at 3:20 AM #

    the perfect playlist. i think people lie because they can’t or don’t want to take responsibility and look bad, the irony is, you would respect them more if they owned up to the truth and moved on

    • The Guat April 11, 2021 at 5:27 PM #

      I remembered these songs and was pumping the volume trying to connect as I sang off key. So frustrating with their altered view You WOULD think better of them if they just owned up to it. Thanks for stopping by and glad you enjoyed the playlist:)

  2. Island Traveler April 12, 2021 at 8:47 AM #

    I can so connect and relate to your post. The world and the people in it can be repetitively toxic. Some we can escape from, others have to deal with regularly. Music & coffee starts my day. It’s hope that things will get better, people will get better. Have a beautiful week my friend. We deserve to feel good, live well & happy.

    • The Guat April 13, 2021 at 8:33 AM #

      It is hard when people around you are toxic and I’m grateful when I don’t see them, even if their venom travels across the state. But music, good thoughts, and encouraging words help find a better state of mind. Thanks my friend. Hope you’re doing well.

  3. Sorryless April 12, 2021 at 5:51 PM #

    People are going to think and do and what they will, and to tell you the truth, I stopped sweating that nonsense more years ago than I can remember.

    Stay in the sunshine, Cali.

    • The Guat April 13, 2021 at 8:29 AM #

      Duuuuuuude you be as strong as King Kong and GodZilla 🙂 I like that wisdom and got to keep that close to the vest. I thought I was done with this type of nonsense back in the school days … but people who are supposed to be close to you, your blood, turns out to be watered down and I trip out on the Twilight Zone they’re stuck in of their own making. It’s good not to see that kind of person, that kind of family often but when you do I got to remember your words and stay in the sunshine. Thanks hermano. Sending you good vibrations and salutations 🙂

      • Sorryless April 13, 2021 at 3:53 PM #

        Looks like we are in the same boat when it comes to certain members of the famiglia. I’ve been estranged from much of mine for a while now. Can’t look back.

        • The Guat April 13, 2021 at 7:13 PM #

          Boundaries. Boundaries for your own sanity and peace of mind

          • Sorryless April 14, 2021 at 5:29 AM #

            Amen to that.

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