Hugs and Moments of Silence

10 Jun

He never knew who Michael Jordan was, but learned more about him this week.

You see, my son had to once again learn a life lesson, but this time it came through the world of sports.

Now not everyone is a superstar, but everyone has something to bring to the table. Some are offense, some defense. Everyone thrives in a different environment. But hearts can be broken no matter what side of the ball you’re on.

He loves hockey and baseball, and does really well in both. In fact, he often practices during the off-season, and while the big selection process took place this week, he’d been practicing his drills, skating, and watching videos online.

He was ready. He felt ready. He took the ice, just like Andre Agassi would take the court. A monster on defense. Now as a parent, I know many inflate their kids’ achievements and spread it on pretty thick. However, I know my kid. I know he’s not Wayne Gretzky  … he’s still a work in progress. But he falls in the upper levels of the spectrum there. So when he was not selected to the top shelf team and was chosen for what was considered the JV Squad, it was a serious burn. His spirit deflated, and his confidence crushed. He had worked so hard.

It was difficult to watch  …

I had to step up my parent game. This was when I needed my cape and superpowers in tact.

Keeping your head up when disappointment punches you in the stomach is hard. I’ve felt it plenty of times in life, so I knew what he was going through. I put my arm around his shoulder and we just sat there for a minute.

I had to bust out my best Friday Night Lights Coach Taylor Speech. But I waited until we  left.

I’m proud of you. I think you gave it everything you had and I saw it. Your old coach saw it. You saw it yourself. You walked off the ice knowing you had no regrets. And that’s how it should always be no matter what. You’re  a good hockey player.  And you’re an even more amazing person. Sometimes we just have to work a little harder because people don’t see what we see. They missed it. You know who Michael Jordan is, right? …”

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Everyone had this amazing picture made into a poster up on their wall … I was still  Magic Johnson fan. Always. But for the purposes of this story I needed Jordan.

 

We sat on the bench, outside the pizza place, for a little while longer. He listened to Jordan’s origin story, and how when he was a kid he got cut from the team. He wasn’t even picked. But that didn’t stop him from making a monster comeback. He knew they had missed it.

There wasn’t much to say after that. Sometimes as a parent, I’ve learned that hugging works well during moments of silence.

Buen Camino my friends …

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3 Responses to “Hugs and Moments of Silence”

  1. susielindau June 10, 2018 at 6:38 AM #

    I’m so glad those competitive years are over!!! My kids were never super-star athletes being smaller like their parents. Oh, the disappointments! There’s a big life lesson there just like you said, it could take time. Or, choose your passions then throw your heart and soul into them, no matter the outcome because you LOVE doing it.
    BTW, none of the super-star athletes from their school ever made pro. It’s so competitive. A lot like getting published, right???

    • The Guat July 6, 2018 at 12:02 AM #

      Duuuuuuuuuude totally like getting published! Susie! So good to hear from you 🙂 Oh man this was a tough one for sure, and definitely gonna take some time. It might sting once the season starts and he notices half his teammates on the other squad, but we’ll see how things pan out. Universe works it’s magic differently on everyone. So I’m just gonna keep cheering him on and being there to help him improve and keep watching Rudy and Miracle and make it the best we can. Hugs included. 🙂 Thanks for stopping by to chat.

  2. susielindau June 10, 2018 at 6:38 AM #

    And yes!! Hugs go a long way in support. You’re a super mom!

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