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Happiness Project Update 26: The Antidote to the This-Currently-Sucks-Right-Now Moments

3 Jun

This one was easy. I didn’t even have to think about how to do it or form ways to bring it into my daily life. It was already there. It had to be if I was hoping to survive the malaise of my current Life-Wasn’t-Supposed-To-Turn-Out-This-Way-Plan-B-2.0 existence.

Attitude. I had to pick it.

Had to.

It’s probably the reason why I picked up Rubin’s book in the first place. Most people didn’t need to pick up her book. Most people don’t need Tony Robbins, Randy Pausch, or Elizabeth Gilbert quotes to light a fire under their ass. Most people are happy the way things are … I was not most people. I was in the this-currently-sucks-right-now group, and I think I was the CEO. Still am, but my attitude about it has changed a bit. And it’s not due to anything great that has happened to me. Nothing of blockbuster proportions, but the difference is that I’ve just been able to find little moments and hold on to them with a 10th degree black belt Kung Fu grip. I savor them, until the last drop, because who knows when this cup is going to be full again.

Image via happiness-project.com

Image via happiness-project.com

So when Rubin suggested that attitude was one of the keys to a Happiness Project, I was like … yeah … I got this. I know this. And then she followed it up by suggesting that you incorporate LOL in your daily life. Now when I first saw this a while back, I had no idea what it meant. I wasn’t into text messages. I was more into conversations, but when I realized it was “laugh out loud,” it sort of became one of my rules of the day. Although I don’t like using the abbreviation as a note to myself, for others yes, but for myself I usually I have to spell it out for a more meaningful effect.

Sometimes this is difficult when you’re the CEO of your-life-currently-sucks-right-now. Especially when I have those Thelma-and-Louise-I-should-just-jump-off-a-cliff-right-now moments. Finding The Wish Factor can be hard. I have to look outside of me to find the funny. Like when you think you’re a writer and the rejection letter in the mail tells you, no, not today you’re not. Like when you can’t handle the ‘for worse’ part of your “for better or worse” vows and you just feel like throwing your partner out of a moving car … tuck and roll, baby, tuck and roll. Like when you look in the mirror and wonder where all that gray hair came from and then you realize it when you hear the high-pierce screaming of your kid’s voice for no apparent reason at 3 a.m. Like when your mom gives you advice on raising your kids for the 10oth time and the deep breathing Namaste business isn’t helping you. Laughing out loud isn’t possible in these circumstances. It doesn’t come from within, not at that moment.

But I still get the antidote from somewhere else.

And other than tuning into the amazing Jason Bateman, one of my go-to people for laughter is Late Night With Jimmy Fallon. I’ve got to say, there are times when I’m really not feeling it for one reason or another, but I manage to laugh out loud thanks to Fallon. He makes me forget my crappy moods. One of my favorites has to be when Justin Timberlake appears and they perform the History of Rap. But my most recent cracking up experience had to be when John Krasinski showed up.

 

 

Jimmy had the antidote. Laughing out loud had never been so easy for me. That is one Happiness Project lesson I didn’t need to be reminded of, but I was glad I was on the right track.

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